Monday, October 12, 2020

How to make your own curtain tiebacks


Last year after settling on curtains for our new house, I then had to work out why kind of tiebacks I wanted to use. Because I'm not the only one handling them, I wanted to find something that could stand up to less delicate maneuvering as we open our curtains in the morning and close them in the evening everyday. My search ended one day at our local thrift shop where I found two bundles of golden vintage ribbon. One was more vibrant yellow and matched the picture in my mind perfectly.

To make a test run, I only made one pair and then used them for a few days before making the rest of the sets for all of the curtained windows. Several weeks ago, one of the tiebacks went missing and despite looking in all the likely places, it remains lost somewhere. As I rounded up the materials to make a new one, I took a few photos to share the easy process for anyone interested.


Using a fabric measuring tape, find out how much swag you want your curtains to have and then determine how much ribbon length you need. Because I made the loops out of embroidery floss, I used scotch tape to temporarily attach the loops to my ribbon to see how much floss I needed to have the tiebacks hang correctly. Once I could see how everything worked, I cut my ribbon pieces and embroidery floss. 

To keep my ribbon from fraying with use, I generously coated the ends with fray check and let it dry. (*Use the fray check on a sample piece to determine what the final dried end will look like as the fray check may discolor or harden your ribbon. If you can't use fray check on your ribbon, you could try to iron the fraying end over in a fold and add some stitches to keep the nice edge.)


Then I made a loop from each piece of floss and with my hot glue gun, put a small amount of hot glue on one end of the ribbon. Holding the floss in the shape of the loop, I pressed both ends into the hot glue, waited about eight or ten seconds and then pressed the floss more firmly into the glue without burning my fingers. Remove any sticky glue and as it hardens, you can also trim any excess with scissors. Repeat with the other end of the ribbon. The tiebacks can be used almost immediately.




Here are some pictures of the tiebacks in use in our home. They are currently held in place by clear tacks, but metal hooks are on the to-do list.



We have been using them in this manner for almost a year and I'm pleased with how they are holding up. Depending on the tieback style you choose to make, the process may look different for your project, but I hope this post gives you some ideas to make your own.
 


Sunday, October 11, 2020

Teaching like a parent


A short article I submitted to our local homeschool newsletter for September's edition.


As homeschooling parents and families, we have witnessed the whole world suddenly interested in discussing the merits and faults of homeschooling. It is remarkable to hear even the casual conversation invoke this idea of learning outside of a classroom. As many of us have resumed some form of our homeschooling routines in recent weeks, we may wonder how we found ourselves doing this task and we may even question our ability as we listen to conversations swirling around us. I hope these words give you confidence to see how parents are very capable teachers.

There really is no secret sauce to teaching your own child anything. You listen to and observe what they can tell you about any topic or skill; then you add to their understanding and listen and observe again.
Repeat with every topic, project and skill under the sun. Teaching is listening well, expanding the conversation or effort and then listening and observing again.. Anyone can do this, whether they assign books to be read or show concepts on a board, paper or with an object.

Adding to someone's understanding is not the most difficult part. Listening and observing require more effort and self-control, but it is a sweet reward to see your child grow in wisdom, knowledge and competence. So be encouraged that as a parent, you are uniquely created to do the work of a teacher as you live and learn with your children.

Monday, August 10, 2020

growing friendships between girls and boys

Recently a friend of mine and mother to my daughter's playmates told me she had allowed her oldest son and daughter to email regularly with other children from families they knew. One of the mothers objected that it wasn't appropriate for her daughter to email with the son but she could with his sister. 

My friend felt bad that she had not checked with each mother before allowing both her son and daughter to exchange emails with their friends. Now duly chastened she asked me if my daughter could email with both her son and daughter since she is friends with them both to which I easily assented. 

Both of us can read these emails at anytime, plus it's normal for girls to want to communicate regularly with chattering updates and some boys enjoy this past time as well, even if done differently. Perhaps the other mother had very good reasons for limiting her daughter to only emailing with other girls; there are certainly some scenarios in which this could be wise for a time. My point here is not the limitation but to think through the wholesome wideness that friendships between girls and boys can enjoy. 

My daughter also exchanges written letters and drawings through the mail with the son of family friends in another part of the country that we do not see frequently. He first wrote a letter to her for a homeschool assignment as part of his language arts curriculum about two years ago. She faithfully writes back and now they look forward to these mailings especially as travel plans have become so uncertain and limited.

I have a few thoughts on these friendships as they wax and wane through the years. 

First, boys and girls may be different in their interests, but they both want their interests to be acknowledged and even explored in conversation and/or activity with others. Dismissal of each other's interests as weird, boring or dumb will not grow a friendship. They need to have sufficient character development that they can listen and respond to the other's interests even if they do not share that interest.

Second, in order to grow the friendship further, there should be shared experiences that help bridge the gap even if they cannot be enjoyed together. Here is a partial list of interests that I think can be discussed and explored to help cultivate the friendships between girls and boys in a wholesome manner. 

* family trips or travel stories

* outside adventures

* inside play or activity 

* pet or animal stories

* projects with making/building/creating

* unusual activity or event in your family

* books, movies, music, television, theater or other media enjoyed and recommended

* questions about each other

* planning for next in-person visit

* discussing kindly mutual family, friends or acquaintances

* favorite or disliked food or drink

* future plans and dreams

* humorous jokes and stories

* etc.

There are plenty of other topics that could be explored including recalling past adventures or moments shared. As parents we sometimes inadvertently help our children cultivate these friendships further by simply showing an interest in the stories and conversations they relate to us. If we ask a pleasant question or make a encouraging comment about what we have heard or read between these friends, we are showing how to be curious and interested in the lives of others in an appropriate way.

Finally, by looking at both familiar and unfamiliar wholesome interests with another child, but especially from the opposite sex, I can see that my daughter's perspective and understanding of the world she shares with others causes her to grow beyond her own self and makes her a better friend and playmate. 

While there certainly may come a time when the kindly and comfortable friendship between girls and boys takes an awkward turn or sudden end, the memories of those childhood days goes a long way in pursuing good friendships for life. 

If we can give our children the opportunity to develop good friendships with each other, the adult friendships that we savor as we grow older can be bolstered by the warmth of those nourishing and nostalgic years as children.

Thursday, July 16, 2020

with perspective



"I had grown up in a home where I had been made to believe that it was a lowly thing for an intelligent young woman with a good education to visit the open market. That was for the peasants and the laborers who lacked the money to buy elsewhere. I had not known much about the markets, but I discovered that many of the merchants were women who had only flawed goods to sell. They offered overripe, half-rotten fruits and vegetables, or food too dry to be sold at any other place. "These are cheap and good!" they would shout all day long in a frantic effort to get customers. "Cheap! Cheap! Extremely cheap!"
After crying out continually, their voices were hoarse, but still there were few customers. Those who did want to buy would haggle over the price until tempers raged and the quarreling was bitter. The eyes of the market vendors were tired and dull, and the stench of unwashed bodies and rotting food was in their clothes. Although they were women, their voices were as coarse and harsh as men's.
I would visit those poor, unhappy merchants, often buying their remaining goods at the same price I would pay for unspoiled food. I witnessed to them, and they listened to me.
My actions would have seemed extremely strange to anyone who may have been watching me. Every day I went over the food I had bought, sorting out the decaying vegetables and fruits, the dried rice cakes, and those things most people would have considered unfit to eat. Those I saved for myself. The rest I gave to my mother, who ate very little, and to the neighbors. 
Tears moistened Mother's eyes as she watched me, but she quickly understood. In prison I knew they would serve me rotten beans and millet, so that is what I bought and ate. At first my sister cried when she saw the food I had selected for myself. Gradually, however, she, too, came to see the reason for my actions." ~ Esther Ahn Kim, If I Perish (Referenced in Faithful Women and Their Extraordinary God, by Noël Piper)


Wednesday, July 15, 2020

May quarantine

I spent so much of our winter inside wishing for warm sunny days that when the weather finally broke in mid-March and the snow was melting a little quicker everyday, I wanted to make up for all my missed outside time. Oh, and my exercise program had a checkmark for daily walking which was a motivator through March and April. 
But by May, with spring life bursting outside, going outside to explore and look carefully for beauty and goodness was all pleasure and no program needed to motivate me. A few times we met up on the trails and homesteads of local friends who also wanted to run and climb and play with sticks and pet hens and baby goats.
On my morning solo walks, I kept noticing landscaping and planting carefully tended and blooming in pleasing arrangements. As I walked different streets and into the older part of our neighborhood, I found green walkways between streets and pleasant tree-lined streets that were shady and blossoming with life. For several years now, I have been reading and following topics such as new urbanism, traditional building, street design, pocket-neighborhoods, permaculture, human scale/walkability, and others. I do not have an architect's mind for math, ratios and scale, so many of these topics require me to look carefully at the diagrams, drawings and photos to understand what is being discussed. In the meantime, I enjoy exploring all sections of our town on foot and looking at what good ideas have been implemented.